December 22, 2019

Numerology/Astrology for 12/23/19 – Plus Personal Blog

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Numerology/Astrology for 12/23/19

12/23/19 is the number 11.  It is “crunch mode” and all the packages need to get wrapped and put together. The tree is calling you that it needs more under its branches. The menus need to be planned so the shopping can begin and preparation can commence. There is always a lot to do but fortunately there are usually lots of people to help. Don’t try to do it all yourself. You have nothing to prove. After all, how many Christmas’s have you done by now? Lots! This one is no different. Relax and enjoy the hustle and bustle. Enjoy the connecting with others. Remember those that are perhaps alone and invite them over for Christmas dinner or bring come cookies. Let no one be left behind.

~Suzanne Wagner~

Astrology Today

The Moon in Sagittarius this morning makes the mood shift into a more “party” atmosphere.

It can make you feel moody and restless also. Therefore I would create a plan and check things off as you go. You wish to understand something and I hope you are reaching for higher philosophical laws of truth.

You might feel a bit insecure and uncertain in relationship to your direction because of the Sun-Chiron Square. There is a tendency because of being uncertain to follow another’s lead. That would be unwise. You will later regret that choice. There are moments when it is up to you to choose. This is one of those moments.

But by the afternoon you will feel less stuck and more able to make a choice that is wise and more in alignment with your own truths.

Tomorrow the Sun’s trine to Uranus is going to make you feel as if you want to free yourself from past patterns that have felt limiting.

~Suzanne Wagner~

Quote

Life is a journey to find a way
through the challenges that present.
What we choose is where we are.
What we tolerate is where we
to were wounded in our journey.
But tolerating behavior that is
a reflection of a false self
will never heal the wound.
It will never let you learn the
lessons and find another way.
Growth is about confronting.
Healing is about realization.
Change is about choice.

~Suzanne Wagner~

 

 

Blog

 

I have observed in myself (and others) patterns of behavior that actually do not support the growth and development of those we love. We make a big mistake that love is giving permission for dysfunctional behaviors to continue. We believe that if we love another that we have to tolerate their bad behaviors. Now, there is a big difference between loving someone and allowing them to learn and grow, and actually making up a story that they are doing something when everyone else is doing it for them.

I recently observed this in a particular family. And as an outsider, I watched the pattern with interest without getting involved. It is often inappropriate to get into the middle of another’s family patterns without permission. And during holidays, it is particularly a bad idea.

But I bring this up to give everyone over this holiday season a chance to observe objectively the patterns that work and the patterns that do not work. Fixing them during this time is not appropriate. But later on, there might be an opening to have a conversation without all the emotional triggers. Then it is a sharing and a gifting of insight rather than a criticism.

I find that people will not change if you keep giving them room to do the same pattern again and again. They also feel as if they are the ones that are right, because (of course) everyone is telling them that their behavior is fine.

What you notice is also a reflection of what you experienced and learned to work through in your life. You cannot really help shift a pattern that you personally have not shifted completely within yourself. If you try to give feedback from being not healed yourself, then you just sound like you are criticizing and putting others down. Such a moment leaves you open for attack because you are not whole and others can see the chinks in your armor and will take a pot shot at you.

First off, notice the stories that are being told that validate someone but the story is not true. That is called, placating. The question to ask yourself, “Is this true?”

After that, I ask, “Is this real?” And finally I ask, “Who does this hurt?”

The last one is important because almost always it hurts the one who has made up the story. It hurts the one doing all the work with another is getting credit for it. And that is just wrong.

In the event I was at, I watched an amazing young man who was clearly in love with a beautiful, entitled young woman, make up stories that she was helping so much when she was actually doing nothing and this young man was doing it all. He even got everyone in his family involved in the story that she was doing so much when everyone else was pitching in and doing her job for her. None of them were getting any credit and they were complimenting her on how well it all went and what a great even she put on, when 90% was her sweet, devoted, boyfriend. But I could see the pattern that appeasing others that do not pull their weight was locked into this family.

No one wanted to upset her. Though she was clearly upset and spending lots of time doing self-care rather than all the things that others were giving her credit for.

I find such things interesting. I wonder how they continue in family dynamics. Each of us have certain family patterns that actually cause underlying stresses. Bringing them up is difficult at best. But there are moments when you can have a civil conversation and begin to shift out of such forms of self-deception. Eventually it will make for a smoother holiday event.

~Suzanne Wagner~

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