Blog – Conversation on the Two Faces of Scorpio  

My word for today is:
Dissimulative – concealing under a false appearance with the intent to deceive.

I pick this word because of this powerful Moon in Scorpio squaring Pluto in Aquarius.

Scorpio is a deep ocean where we confront the two extremes of human nature – manipulation vs. loyalty.

Confusion arises when souls were never provided appropriate loyalty models in childhood or as they were growing up. Loyalty takes a lot of time. Loyalty is a process that is earned, and it requires great support and trust to earn it. It is considered one of the great virtues.

If we were not shown powerful reflections of loyalty as we were growing up, it can lead to mental and emotional problems as our brain has not been wired properly through experience. If we were not shown great loyalty and expressions of true unconditional love, it can lead to leaning into dissimulative behaviors that are reflections of dysfunctional relationships with those that intend to manipulate us as they want the appearance of loyalty without ever really earning that loyalty. This leads to the mind existing in a constant state confusion and that in turn causes social anxiety, a lack of clarity, a lack of direction, and a lack of knowing our worth or purpose.

At the core of all manipulations are the underlying questions, “What’s in it for me?”. Often those that manipulate … learned that behavior from a dysfunctional parent or person of influence. Those “habits” become vehicles for negotiating relationships that are at their root only transactional. Their focus is, “What can you give me? If I give you this?”

Loyalty exists in a completely different world. To be loyal means that one chooses to tell the truth when the behavior of another is below acceptable levels of expression. Those that are loyal, hold us to our own higher standard. They do not placate or accept our lowest self … gaining control over a situation.

Loyalty means that we are willing to engage in the messy emotional confrontations that are often required to get to the bottom of things and to set things right. Being loyal means that you do what is best for the other, not what makes you comfortable in the moment.

Let’s be clear, talking behind someone’s back is a sign of disloyalty. Somewhere that relationship … has a hook. And that is not real loyalty. Those that continue to compromise the trust that others have engendered … is a sure sign of manipulation.

True intimacy requires loyalty. Love cannot grow without the safety that loyalty provides at its core. And trust quickly breaks down when loyalty is one sided and when only one person intends to gain ground.

We live in a world filled with those that have suffered at the hands of others that intended to take from them without really offering anything back of substance. That is a very sad understanding but essential for us to make sense out of the actions of some who defend one person but care nothing for the greater good or the whole that is trying to get their attention.

Today, notice those poor souls who have no clear reference point for the powerful forces of loyalty and that are currently being manipulated.

Until they recognize that they must first heal deeply within, they will not see that they have displaced loyalty and so they will continue to be harmed by those that intend to manipulate them, until they are used up and nothing but an empty husk of their former selves.

~Suzanne Wagner~