A loving heart is as deep as the ocean. At the centre of it all is a well, at the bottom of which you will find forgiveness and tenderness, no matter how hurt the Heart has been, no matter how much pain the Heart has put you through.
~Wild Women Sisterhood~
Sometimes getting to the place of forgiveness is difficult. Sometimes the hurt is so great and it feels as if the betrayal is so deep that despite your constant effort to forgive and to let things go, the memory surfaces and drags you back into old places of upset and pain. It takes so much mental discipline to not allow yourself to continue to fall into places that do not serve your highest self. Sometime forgiveness is a choice and more often than not, it is something that has to be cultivated and matured through reflecting on the mirror that this situation is attempting to show you about yourself. Now, I often do not want to see where I have also betrayed others or have (more often than not) betrayed myself. But that is the journey. Look at the self-deception and the stories that you have told yourself or others. Look at where your story always shows you in the most positive light. Look at how you make others into the “bad guy”. In truth there is no bad guy. There are only mirrors reflecting to us our own denial. When you can love the places that you choose to continue to deceive yourself, then you can forgive others of their own denial. Life becomes much easier then. From that place, you return to love and give of your own truth. That gives others the opportunity to also share from a more honest and sincere place.